I think we will always miss those we lose and that we will never stop wishing they were still here with us. It's just that we learn to live with their absence. We learn to live our life without them. As impossible as that feels in the beginning.
If you look hard enough you can see a weathering in all who have mourned. We have given ourselves over to time because we had to. Because that is the only thing that brings us closer to and farther away from the people we love.
So however long it takes to find that place. However long it takes to put one foot in front of the other again. However long it takes to smile. To laugh. To love life again. Is simply how long it takes.
There is no right answer.
Think about how much you love your most cherished ones. While that love may have appeared instantaneously, over time it continued to grow and grow until the love was so big that there became no separation too vast and no amount of time too great that could ever reverse it.
We grieve until we don't grieve anymore, but we LOVE FOREVER.
(modified excerpt from C. Bidwell Smith "How long do we grieve")
DLF June 5, 2014 (for my Mum)
MR February 15, 2014
IR January 19, 2013
BEA March 6, 2008
CVA May 18, 1999
Saturday, June 7, 2014
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